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Parenting Ideas by Linda

Linda - our New England immigrant - never has anything that catches her off-guard.
Now she is the person everybody in these parts calls whenever they have problem.

Her column is updated every day or thereabouts, so check back often for new secrets and tips.


Sibling Rivalry: Blended Family Problems

Sibling rivalry in the context of a blended family presents unique challenges for parents.

It's only natural for a parent to feel more protective of his/her own biological child, but is it wise to show favoritism to your biological children over your stepchildren?

It's not a matter of you not having a right to love your biological child more intensely than your stepchild, it's more a matter of how doing so affects your stepchild.

Good Parenting Action Points:

  • Make a conscious attempt not to show favoritism towards your biological child over your stepchild.

  • Remind yourself that it's not your stepchild's fault s/he's not your biological child.

    S/he had no part in the life-changing decisions that brought him/her into your care.

  • Know that your stepchild may feel very caught in the middle.

    S/he may feel s/he's being disloyal to his/her own biological non-custodial parent by forming a positive relationship with you, especially if there are bad feelings between the divorced parents.

  • Showing favoritism to one child over another is not only the wrong thing to do, doing so may actually harm your marriage.

    You are an adult in this stepfamily, and you have the tools and maturity to deal fairly with all members in your blended family.


  • Do you have Parenting ideas or secrets to share or have a question?

    You can Write to Linda!.

    Include your first initial and last name and put the word PARENTING in the subject.

    I'll try to use your contribution in a future column.

    (Please note that these columns are written several weeks in advance so publishing it will be delayed accordingly.)


    Hope this helps tame some of your day-to-day little beasties.

    Linda


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